5 easy and effective ways to start putting yourself first…
There was a time not too long ago that when the thought to start putting myself first came about, I would find a million reasons why it wasn’t the right time or convince myself I still wasn’t worthy enough and go right back to my people pleasing + self neglecting ways. The mere thought of doing something just for ME would send me into a shame spiral of epic proportions and make me feel like the worst person on the planet. I know that sounds a dramatic, but I really was the poster child for self neglect + abandonment.
It can be very intimidating to step into a space where putting yourself first feels good to you. I know it was for me. I was squirm in my skin, heart pounding through my chest, want to run out of the room intimidated. But after reaching burnout several times, I recognized that I needed to become comfortable with starting to prioritize myself, even if it scared the living shit out of me.
After several failed attempts of trying to do all the things to put myself first all at once, I found that starting small was the best way to ease into putting myself first. Taking small steps everyday eventually gave me the confidence to fully make myself my number one priority.
Here are the 5 small yet effective things I started doing that helped me learn to start putting myself first:
Everyday, Set a timer for 15 minutes and just do whatever feels good to you in that moment. Meditate, journal, make your favorite snack, dance to your favorite songs, anything that makes you smile and feel your best.
Say no to one thing you do everyday but may not be what feels in line with what you want to do that day. Maybe the laundry can wait until tomorrow, dinner can be super simple, or hit the decline button on a phone call you just don’t have the energy for.
Write down how you are feeling for one minute in the morning. Writing down how you are feeling can help your recognize what you may need to do to take care of yourself a little better.
Start an affirmation practice. Finding and saying affirmations that support self worth will help reframe your mindset when it comes to putting yourself first. You can say them when you are brushing your teeth or on the commute to work.
Start working with a therapist or coach to help you learn why you may have been struggling to put yourself first. There is usually an underlying reason and it is always so helpful to have the awareness of why you struggle with this.
These 5 things quite literally changed my life and helped me step into my empowerment journey. When you start with little consistent steps, you most likely will graduate to big long strides that lead you to bigger and better things.
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